Come Together Coaching

If you don’t know what the problem is, coaching will help you and your partner come together.

Hi, I’m Abigail! I am happily married with 3 children.

But it was not always that way. 

My first marriage ended when my sons were little; I felt like I had tried everything I could to turn the relationship around, and there was nothing else to do. Years later, I found myself remarried with another child and I was in an eerily similar situation: constant fighting and believing that it was all my husband’s fault. I made the common excuse that my marriage would continue to suffer until my husband decided to fix his issues.

This is a myth many of us fall prey to in order to shield us from our own actions. Even if we own any past mistakes, we still feel helpless in our current situation: “there’s nothing I can do”… “I’ve tried everything”… “my husband wants the divorce, I can’t change his mind”…

This is FALSE.

Once I realized that waiting around for someone else to fix things is FUTILE, and will certainly end in divorce (like it did before), I knew I had to change up my approach.

So I started to believe in another myth: therapy is the only answer.

Many couples (myself included) have spent THOUSANDS in couple’s counseling, only to realize it actually made their relationship worse. You are paying a very high paid referee to watch you point fingers at your spouse. 

So maybe you are thinking you just need individual therapy? I have had some great experiences with therapy on my own. It definitely helped me process past pain and trauma, but it did NOT help me heal my marriage. In fact, I was encouraged by one of my therapists to END my relationship. That was the opposite of what I wanted.

So what was missing? Why wasn’t therapy working? I realized I needed practical strategies to turn my relationship around!

I discovered I had the power to TRANSFORM my relationship – and I did not need to wait for my husband to get on board. 

By taking radical accountability and mastering my communication, I learned how to navigate every challenging interaction with my husband into the outcome I wanted. Ultimately, we found our way back together. And you know what? By learning and mastering these skills, my husband followed my example and did the same. Our ability to effectively manage conflict and find resolution has been LIFE CHANGING. We are able to mitigate conflict in record time and get back to the loving, affectionate connection we both crave. 

I have used the same approach with 100s of my clients, and I look forward to showing you how this approach will work for you.